Parents As Role Models

While television and other media have made it a practice to anoint well-known celebrities as positive role models for kids, the great majority of people still believe that parents should be the foremost role models of their children. The following is a compilation of various ways that can help parents become better role models for their kids.

In terms of nurturing children, the most common comment is to show your love and concern. Tell them you love them every day and show affection daily through hugs, kisses and touches. In spite of busy schedules, make time for special family fun activities. Also make the effort to meet your child's friends to build stronger rapport with them and to gauge the influence they exert on your kids.

Understanding is another key in becoming an effective role model for your child.

As the saying goes, "Understand - don't take a stand." Communication is vital and should always be a two-way street. Listen to your kids and find out what's going on in their lives and if anything is bothering them. Let them know that they can talk to you about anything under the sun. It is important to remember that children who have good communication with their parents are more likely to ask for their advice than turn to their peers.

Parents constantly demand respect from their children, but remember that is it is not something that can be taken for granted. Like most things of real value, respect has to be earned. And oftentimes, the best way to earn respect is to give respect. This also means that you have to learn to empathize, to put yourself in your kid's shoes and understand what it means to be him. And always try to avoid putting your children in situations where they feel disregarded, disrespected, humiliated or embarrassed. Such situations can sometimes leave deep emotional scars.

Remember that you have to teach your children to respect themselves as well. Teach them to stand up for themselves without putting their safety at risk. Discuss ways to solve problems without fighting. Make them aware that fighting never solves a problem. Most importantly, advise them that physical force or intimidation does not win respect, rather, it is the quality of one's character that wins respect.

Keith Shepherdson 10S16

10 comments:

Eliza Isa said...

I agree that parents should act as role model to their children. As a child, we tend to follow what is shown to us, and appreciate the little gestures our parents show us. The care and concern that parents give to their child will eventually develop a sense of belonging and affection towards the parents, allowing the child to respect the parent and feel comfortable to confide in them, and even heed the important life values taught to the child. Because parents live with their children and are in constant contact everyday, it is important that they share a close relationship and respect each other and thus the first step has to be taken by the parent, who is of higher maturity and has greater experience than the child.

Suhaila 10A07

K Loh said...

I find this article interesting as it touches on the aspect of the parent-child interaction, which is one of the major problems the world is facing. I agree that between a parent and a child, there has to be the existence of understanding and respect so that they can always confide in each other despite the wide age gap. This is especially applicable to the context of Singapore as from what I have observed for the past few years, teenagers would choose to tell their friends everything, thus the parents know nothing. This is unhealthy for their parent-child relationship as there has to be constant communication and affection shown so that they can gain trust towards each other. The only thing parents can do is to be able to manage their tiem well and remember never to put aside family matters, to set their children as top priority. They must constantly show that they will always be there for their children so that their children will not feel uncomfortable and not turn to other instead.

K Loh said...

The post actually shows something that is really important that both children and parents should have.But unfortunately parents nowadays fail to realise that children are more important than anything else.As what is written in post,"Understand-dont take stand",is a vital quality that parents need to have.I totally agree with the writer that relationship between parents and children should be more of a friend-like,instead of adult-child.This will allow them to have a wider interaction and cultivate the sense of belonging to the family.The writer could have shown how else parents could show respect towards the children.In view of Singapore's situation,in most houses both parents are working.Hence they may not know how to manage and spend time with thier family.Enforcing the consequences of quality time spent,may urge parents to do so.At the same time, its also up to the children to find time to be with thier parents,amid of the tight schedule in school with lessons and CCAs.
Reflection by keerthana 10s25

xiia0starrs said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
xiia0starrs said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
nanatan said...

I agree with the view that parents should be the foremost role models of their children. Firstly, parents are the ones who brought their child into this world. In one way or another, the responsibility of the upbringing of a child will fall heavily on the parents' shoulder. For example, in Japan's society, if a celebrity did something wrong, his parents would have to step forward and apologise to the whole society for not being able to teach their child well enough. Secondly, parents are often the first teacher to the child. Babies learn to pronounce the first few words that they speak, 'Mum' and 'Dad', through the coaching of the parents. Hence, more often than not, a child would learn from their parents initially and often, their behaviour in the later part of the years would reflect their parents' own behaviour.
However, in the process of teaching their children, parents often forget to shower praises and show concern for their child. Miscommunication also arise, harming the harmony within the family unit. To teach their child, the best method that a parent could adopt would be their child's best friend. By listening to and understanding their child, they would learn how to teach their child how to tackle their problems and overcome the many obstacles in their life and in return, the child might be deterred from using other methods, such as taking drugs, to solve their problem. The bond between the parent and the child would also be stronger when they have a rapport and the child would also tend to listen to and take their parents' advice more, while at the same time, mutual respect will also be reached. All these would guide the child to become a person with good character in the near future.

Regina Tan, 10A04

Eliza Isa said...

I find that the quote, "Understand - don't take a stand" in the article is most interesting in the article. I agree to a large extent that parents and the children should have mutual respect for one another as above mentioned in the article. As communication is vital and in order for there to be effective communication between parents and children, I believe respect has to be earned first. The relationship between a child and his parents should be a friendly and open one instead of an authoritative one. This way the child would be more comfortable in confiding his troubles and concerns to the parent involved. In Singapore where her highly modernised and fast paced life has taken a toll on the bonding between a parent and his child has to be corrected before the matter gets out of hand. This is evident in the society as more children are sent in for Beyond Parental Control (BPC) in recent years as seen in newspaper reports recently. This will lead to social problems in the long run if not corrected now. The Singapore government should educate the society of the importance of the role of parents as role models to their children. As parents, good communication should be inculcated in their children since young. In order to earn the respect of their young ones, parents should show care and concern for their children and also shower them with praises and reward them with gifts if they carry out a good deed.

Aisyah 10s16

Eliza Isa said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
Eliza Isa said...

This article is important because it provides us with the most criticle problem between youth and their parents today. In todays society, the fight for women's right cause both parents in most families to become part of the working force and thus, the child is either taken care by their grandparents, sending to a childcare or worst case, stay home alone. The bond between parents and children therefore weakens, and parents are rather much more like a provider than a role model. parents going out to work, thinking that earning more money to provide more money for their children seems to be the best way to help them, which is totally wrong. Youthes today just need a someone to teach and guide then, and be there for them when they need it the most. sadly in todays society, parent-children relationship are going to the totally wrong way, and indeed, in order to solve the situation, both parties must made an effort and strengthen the bonds between them. This will not only help in parent-children relationship, but will also minimise the cases of youth becoming criminals today.

Wei Ke 10S16

Eliza Isa said...

I agree that parents should act as role model to their children.Where the responsibility of the upbringing of a child fall heavily on the parents' shoulder.As nowaday most parents are actually focusing more on their work rather than spending their time on their own children in such cases,parents often forget to shower praises and show concern for their child. This eventually lead to miscommunication between children and parents themselves and harming the harmony within the family itself.As it is observed in modern society that youth without a good inculcation of values tend to commit crimes at a higher rate as they can't differentiate right from wrong.As a matter of fact,parents should take time off and use it to bond with their own children,having close relationship would then allow children themselves to confide their hearts to their parents and also this enable parents to give guidance for the young future.
Filbert 10s16